“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.” – Jim Rohn
There is something that really bothers me and I would like to put it out to everyone to see what the consensus is. This is something I have pondered and can’t quite figure out. I wonder if it is a generational thing, or a nationality thing or just a thing that I am incorrect about. OK here it is:
When addressing a married couple, I was always taught the woman’s name comes first, then the man’s name. I’ll just use my name as my example, I was born Jocelyne ……. Grandjean, I married Robert…. Brown, therefore when addressing us as a married couple, I was taught it should be Jocelyne and Robert Brown. The reasoning behind this is that Robert is the one who was born with the name Brown – I only married into that name. Therefore one shouldn’t say Robert and Jocelyne Brown since I was not born a Brown. To me this makes perfect sense, yet time and time again I see it in print or hear it on the television as Robert and Jocelyne Brown.
Just today, when we were eating lunch, my husband and I were looking at the church bulletin and on the back page were a list of contributors to the bulletin. Each and every one was written with the man’s first name, then the wife’s first name and their last name. Of course when I saw this, I made my usual comment to my husband – about how I was taught to write a married couples’ name. He agreed that the reasoning behind my theory made sense but said he never saw it written that way. Was everyone in the world wrong , he asked?
So my question to you is. Is writing a couple’s name as Jocelyne and Robert Brown the old fashioned way of addressing a married couple – therefore making this a generational issue, or is it because my parents were immigrants and that’s how they did it in the old country making it a nationality thing, or am I just plain wrong. Has anyone else been taught the way I have been taught?
I would like to hear what everyone thinks. I know I have readers from different countries and of different ages, therefore the answers I get will be from a varied source. I especially think that would be good since perhaps I’ll be able to figure out if it is indeed generational, or has to do with nationality. Maybe, as my husband intimated, the rest of the world does it different from me.